Low Self Esteem Problems

Low Self Esteem is when we think about ourselves as a bit ‘useless’ or have a low opinion of our abilities in general.

Self esteem is the term we use to describe how we think about and value ourselves.

It refers to how we think, the type of person we are, our abilities and what we expect for the future.

When our self-esteem is healthy, we tend to feel good about ourselves and have a positive outlook on life in general.

A high self-esteem gives us the courage and strength to deal with the ups and downs in life – without them having a long-term impact on our health and well-being.

However, when we have low self esteem, our thoughts and feelings about ourselves are generally negative.

We are more likely to focus on our weaknesses and be overly critical of the things we do and mistakes we’ve made.

Low self esteem means our entire outlook on life is affected. We are also less able to cope with everyday challenges.

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Causes of Low Self Esteem

It is generally believed that issues with low self esteem stem from experiences in early childhood.

Our history and relationships with those around us – including our parents, friends and siblings – shape the opinion we have ourselves.

We receive a combination of positive and negative messages as we grow up, but for some people it tends to be the negative ones that stick.

Feelings of not being good enough can continue into adulthood.

How we develop our self-esteem through adolescence can impact our future levels of self-worth.

Our own natural personalities may also play a part.

Some of us may possess personality traits that make us more susceptible to negative thought patterns about who we are and of our capabilities.

Traumatic life events such as abuse or serious illness can also cause self-esteem to plummet.

Being forced into a physical or emotional position against your will can make it very hard to trust yourself or others.

It can leave you feeling out of control and in your head you may have convinced yourself you were to blame in some way.

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Signs of Low Self Esteem

Low self esteem affects us all in different ways.

There are however common signs to look out for. If a person feels like they are inadequate or unworthy, their behaviour will reflect this.

They act in a way that confirms they aren’t able to do things or aren’t very good, known as ‘confirmation bias’ – a leaning towards interpreting events in a way consistent with what we believe about ourselves.

Common indicators of low self esteem are:

  • Feeling hopeless or depressed
  • Feeling bored with life
  • Having no motivation
  • Lack of assertiveness
  • Being overly sensitive to criticism
  • Believing there’s nothing to look forward to
  • Thinking negatively about yourself
  • Feeling tired a lot of the time
  • Feeling like a failure
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Self Esteem Test

If you’d like to measure your current level of self esteem you can do so using our Self Esteem Test here.

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Psychosocial Therapy for Low Self Esteem

Lee Psychology offer a special form of psychological therapy for Low Self Esteem which adopts a psychosocial perspective.

What this means is that we will help you to understand and solve your problems from the point of view of what has happened to you and NOT what is wrong with you.

This new approach is known as psychosocial therapy and is modelled on the British Psychological Society’s (Division of Clinical Psychology) Power Threat Meaning Framework which rejects the notion that Low Self Esteem is caused by biological faults or pathology.

Psychosocial therapy stands in stark contrast to the biomedical models of mental illness used widely throughout the psychiatric and medical communities despite the almost total absence of any underlying scientific evidence in support of their position.

The psychosocial approaches to Low Self Esteem, on the other hand, are built upon a significant base of clinical and empirical evidence established over at least the last 20 years.

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The CORE CBT Programme for Low Self Esteem

The CORE CBT Programme was devised and written by Paul in 2020 and combines all the best elements of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with additional knowledge drawn from research in Personal Construct Theory, Attribution Theory, Self-Determination Theory and Social Constructivism.

It is particularly well-suited to problems like Low Self Esteem because of the significant role that cognitive processes (thoughts and beliefs) play in the maintenance of the problem and also because of the self-empowering philosophy of the programme.

It is a 10 module course normally taken over a 10 week period with weekly hour long therapy sessions (either face-to-face or using Zoom), but can also be followed as a teach yourself course for those with more manageable problems.

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Find Out More About Overcoming Low Self Esteem

If you’d like to find out more about overcoming or recovering from Low Self Esteem then why not arrange a free initial consultation with us.

During this consultation we will discuss your particular problems and the potential solutions in a safe and confidential environment without you having to commit to any counselling programmes or sessions going forward.

It is our view that not only do you need to decide whether the Lee Psychology approach suits who you are and what you have been through, but also whether or not you feel you will be able to work effectively with us as individuals.

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You can contact Paul on:

07434 776125

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Hypnotherapist Joan Lee D. Hyp. MIAEBP

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Lee Psychology, Maypole House, Yew Tree Court, Wombourne, South Staffordshire, WV5 9JB.

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