Sexual Problems are much more common than people think and can crop up at any time, and at any age.
Nearly all of us, at some point in our lives are likely to experience sexual problems of one sort or another.
They can be very difficult to talk to somebody about, so we would like to assure you that we will deal with you with respect and understanding.
As our sex lives are such a “personal” and integral part of our lives we can often feel too embarrassed to seek help, instead suffering needlessly and letting it affect our self esteem and also those closest to us.
Sexual problems are experienced in fairly equal proportions by both men and women, although men tend to ‘deny’ the existence of the problem and are much less likely to consult for professional help.
Due to the very personal nature of our sex lives, sexual problems that are not dealt with can lead to very powerful feelings of inadequacy, shame and low self esteem.
These feelings NEVER make the problem better or more manageable; in fact, they act in such a way as to further increase the problem creating a vicious circle.
It is important to be aware that one person’s “pleasure” is another person’s “perversion” and there are no hard and fast rules about what is “acceptable” or “unacceptable” – these are all subjective points of view.
There are, however, sexual practices, desires and orientations that are ILLEGAL and cannot be condoned regardless of subjective opinions, for example:
to mention just a few.
Associated Symptoms & Behaviours
People may also experience a number of symptoms and behaviours that may not seem to be directly related to any specific sexual problem including:
- Panic attacks.
- Avoidance strategies.
- Safety behaviours.
- Low self esteem.
Within the Power Threat Meaning Framework, these associated or secondary symptoms may be better thought of as threat responses and coping strategies that have been adopted in order to cope with the immediate problem.
Unfortunately, when faced with threats not everybody adopts threat responses that are ‘adaptive’ to the situation and may frequently choose approaches that end up being more harmful to mental and physical health in the longer term.
Despite this obvious paradox, it is important to recognise that nobody deliberately chooses ‘maladaptive’ coping mechanisms that result in more harm than good.
At some level, the choice of threat response made complete sense (was coherent) at the time the threat was originally experienced, and this may have been in childhood at a time when less personal resources were available.
Want to Find Out More?
If you’d like to find out more about overcoming Sexual Problems using a psychosocial approach, then why not arrange a free initial consultation with us.
During this consultation we will discuss your particular problem, what it means to you and the potential solutions that are available.
We provide a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment without any obligation for you to commit to any psychotherapy programmes or sessions going forward.
This initial consultation will give you the opportunity to consider the merits of the psychosocial perspective as well as the chance to find out what Paul or Joan are like as individuals.