All About Anorgasmia, the Inability to Achieve Orgasm, and How to Overcome it with Psychological Therapy & Counselling

What is Anorgasmia?

Anorgasmia is the medical term for the inability to achieve an orgasm and figures suggest that 10-12% of women will never have an orgasm in their lives.

In females, it is sometimes known as female orgasmic disorder.

Men do suffer this problem in very small proportions but in general, it affects many more females.

It is also estimated that more than 70% of women will never, or hardly ever, orgasm through the act of sexual intercourse.

This is often due to the fact that stimulation during intercourse is quite difficult with manual stimulation generally much more successful.

Anorgasmia can lead both sexual partners to develop feelings of inadequacy leading to the problem developing into a more significant emotional problems such as stress & anxiety which simply create a negative cycle.

What can cause Anorgasmia?

More often than not this problem is one of “mechanics” such as a lack of physical stimulation, being tired after a long day or sometimes the effects of medication.

It is not unknown for anti-depressants to have this effect.

However, if the physical reasons can be ruled out, then Anorgasmia is most likely to be caused by Psychological factors:-

• The fear of “losing control” whilst having an Orgasm – Many women believe that this loss of control is unacceptable and must be avoided.
• Poor body or self image – If you believe that your body is ugly or that you need to lose weight then you might not want to get intimate leading to avoidance or low-self esteem.
• Past Negative experiences – Previous bad experiences or abusive relationships can definitely have an effect on the ability to Orgasm.
• General Relationship problems – If you’ve got a problem in your relationship the worry can express itself at an unconscious level in the bedroom.
• Poor Surroundings or Atmosphere – Having the kids knocking on the door at the moment of passion can develop into a bigger problem if you don’t deal with it, as can trying to be passionate in messy or dirty surroundings.

All of these seemingly minor issues can easily develop into full blown psychological issues if not dealt with effectively.

Can Anorgasmia be treated?

In most cases where this has been a temporary problem simple communication about how sexual partners can please each other will be sufficient.

If you do not communicate, or don’t feel like you can communicate what you need, then it is likely that the problem will only grow rather than go.

If this has been the case then psychological therapy can almost certainly provide a solution.

Counselling for Anorgasmia

We offer a number of different types of therapy and counselling for Anorgasmia and related problems.

Choosing the most suitable therapy depends on a number of different considerations including factors such as:

• How long you have had the problem.
• Your personal preferences.
• How your problem is affecting you today.

You can read more about the different types of therapy for Anorgasmia on the following links:

• CBT for Anorgasmia
• Counselling for Anorgasmia
• Pluralistic Therapy for Anorgasmia

Although all therapies use slightly different approaches, the one thing they all have in common is the relationship that is formed between the client and therapist.

Research suggests that this therapy relationship may be the most important factor in achieving a good therapy outcome.

Behaviour Change Framework – BCF

All of our anorgasmia counselling sessions and programmes are enhanced by applying the Behaviour Change Framework (BCF).

This scientifically proven protocol clearly defines the incremental stages of behaviour change that you need to go through in order to achieve long lasting and sustainable change.

Drawn from the Transtheoretical Model of Behaviour Change (TTM), the framework provides a roadmap that not only gauges the current stage of progression through the change process, but also indicates if more change is required before entering the next phase of therapy or coaching.

In this way, we are able to ensure that you get the best possible level of support in overcoming your problems as well as ensuring that we don’t terminate the change process prematurely.

You can read more about the Science of Change here.

Arrange your FREE initial consultation here.

If you’d like to find out more about overcoming Anorgasmia or recovering from any of your mental health problems then why not arrange a free initial consultation with us.

During this consultation we will discuss your particular issues and the different types of mental health counselling we offer (including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – CBT) without you having to commit to any counselling going forward.

The consultation lasts around 50 minutes and is a great opportunity to meet with either Paul or Joan and decide if you would like to proceed with any support.